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When Intimacy Is Sacrificed for Healing {Love Should Not Suffer} — 24 Comments

  1. Heather, this is so beautifully written and poignant. My heart and home-life echo these thoughts. Illness and sacrifice to help one another heal has resulted in exactly the scenario you describe. What a gift our spouses are to us and what a Saviour to help us see their servant-heart even as we mourn the close night sharing given up in love! Thinking of you both with empathy and sympathy. Much love. xox <3

    • It isn’t easy is it Joy? But the Lord is with us as we know. I’m grateful for all those in my life who try to understand and help. My daughter also does. She has much pain of her own, so she can empathize. We help each other. 🙂

  2. Intimacy: a loving personal relationship with another person; the quality of being comfortable, warm or familiar.

    Heather, though many of us define intimacy in a variety of ways, I’ll bet you have intimacy with both God and your husband. Maybe seeing through a different lens means it isn’t sacrificed at all.

    Many of us feel the need for touch, for affection, yet for one reason or another, do not have it. God has seen fit to bestow upon us intimacy in other ways.

    Bless you, sweet sister. <3

    • God provides all we need, doesn’t He? I’m so thankful He cares about each of us in ways only our hearts and souls can know. It is always visible if only people look.

  3. Thank you for sharing such an intimate part of your life. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

  4. Intimacy of two hearts, that can feel the other’s pain, and seeks to help in whatever way they can… is the truest kind of intimacy and love … just my thought.. Diane

  5. What a love you have found in your husband. I’m glad you have the Lord always to comfort you when the physical is too painful. ❤️

  6. Heather, it is beautiful that our God knew the perfect husband for you & met your needs. May God continue to bless you both, in your marriage, with each other & with Him. May God bless your husband for loving you deeply as Christ loves His Church. Blessings!

    • Thank you, Joanne. Our marriage certainly isn’t perfect, but I trust God with it just like everything else. Thankfully I learned that it is The Lord I must trust for every single part of my life. He knows better after all. 😉

  7. good read – I can relate – if only temporarily, as my wife broke her arm so severely, they couldn’t even put a real cast on it – and it has meant that she has not been able to sleep in bed since the end of January…only sitting up in her recliner downstairs – but it has also meant that I have to be very careful in hugging – which means I don’t get the hug I am used to having every morning since we’ve been married……

    • I saw in FB that your wife was down and out; I hope she is healing well. Oh how you must really miss that hug. It’s hard when the physical aspects – of any kind – are missing in a love relationship. I hope you both get that tight hug soon. And a few more at Disney. 😉

      • yes! the most important hug, besides ours, will be our new granddaughter – she has really been missing that one for sure! 🙂

  8. So beautiful Heather! I know these same thoughts. My husband and I have gone through much of these same things through this chronic illness journey. Thank you for your encouragement here, we are not alone in this love-journey either! God is bringing His love even deeper through it all. Blessings to you!

    • Bettie, thank you so much for your conversation here. This is a difficult subject to discuss within chronic illness. It’s a journey of learning always, isn’t it? ❤️

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