Disingenuous {What It REALLY Means and Why It Hurts People} — 11 Comments

  1. People have hurt me greatly with their words and spread gossip, and before I asked the Holy Spirit to come and live in me, I just wanted to get even. But I understand now that we live in a broken world and satan works overtime to get between people and damage their relationships. When people hurt me now, I pray for them and ask God to help mend their broken minds and hearts. If people believe lies about me, that is their problem. I know that God knows the truth and He is the only one who matters. Yes God always heals if we believe in Him!

    • Oh you have learned the key I have, Brenda! As Chuck says below this comment, it is still hard not to be offended, but it is what we do with that offense. We should protect ourselves and trust God to do that, but not through malice and a vengeful heart. We should expect this sadly, because as you said, Satan thrives on getting people to fail in these ways. The whispers are loud. But God is always there if we just listen to Him instead. Bless you dear, Sister.

  2. I too have been hurt by “friends” and the hardest part was to wipe the dust of friendship from my shoes and move on. But at times that is what we are to do and with the strength of the Holy Spirit we are able to do it. And He is with as we heal and put the pieces back together again, learning to forgive and pray for those who hurt us. God will bring healing and growth and forgiveness. That is my prayer for you.

    • Patty, you always say the most beautiful things and I love your heart for trying to see the Lord’s will every time. People don’t make it easy, for certain, but leaning on His ultimate friendship is the key. You said it perfectly – He is with us as we heal. Amen to that! Thank you for the prayers. They will help. 🙂

      • You are such a special person Heather – it breaks my heart when I witness someone like you full of love getting hurt. What a blessing and joy though knowing God is with us.

        • Patty, You bless me beyond words. Truly. You are a dear sweet soul.
          I have been taking a long break from everything… health, preparing to move, getting right in God’s plan, listening to Him, just focus and rest. I really appreciate you and how you are so supportive. You are a gem!

  3. Heather … This seems to be a pretty common theme these days. The enemy is doing a bang-up job bringing division; within the church and between the church and the world. Although I have a great aversion to using single verse solutions since the Bible is a narrative and not a list of do’s and don’ts, this one was a life changer for me. It was shared with me years ago (by someone I did not particularly like btw) and for some reason has stuck with me. It has helped me to find and give grace in situations that I previously could not. (I could not stay on social media without it)
    Psalm 119:165″ Great peace have they who love Your law; nothing shall offend them or make them stumble.
    Of course I still take offense, but I have learned to let it go much more easily and gives me patience to restore relationships. (and as I type this, I am reminded of some situations I need to address before they get out of hand)
    Blessings to you sister and I will pray that God will bring about healing and restoration in even the most difficult of relational situations, The miracle or Jesus was not on the cross but in the empty tomb. He delights in leading us into a resurrected life and resurrected relationships.

  4. I was hurt by fellow Christians many years ago, but the more I tried to straighten thing out, the more complex it seemed to get. It doesn’t help to go into it, except to say that even though forgiveness is of course the key, the healing does take some time. There will still be times the hurtful thoughts come to your mind… and as quickly as they come get rid of them with God’s help…. and in Jesus’ name… Diane

  5. Bless your dear heart, Heather! I am SO sorry you have had to endure this pain. There is nothing so hurtful as having a sister or brother in Christ inflict such injury to one’s heart. It just seems to add salt to the wound to know that people can do this in the name of Christianity and still feel that they are “okay” with the dear Lord. It hurts to the core. I, too, have felt this sting, and I can honestly understand exactly where you are coming from. You will be okay, my dear friend, for Jesus is with you, and He is riding out the storm right by your side. And there are lots of us out here who care and are in your corner. I am praying for you, and I appreciate you. 🙂

    • Thank you so much Cheryl for your prayers and your beautiful comment. I really appreciate the comments I received from loving people like you. So thank you so much!

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