So we go to them in hopes of salvaging a relationship because they’ve hurt us by misconstruing things. We give them yet another chance even inside our pain.
When someone you think you can trust understands with clarity that what they did hurts you and they still make excuses instead of apologize, you continue to be hurt by less than sincere words. And the hurt they cause is blinded to them because they participated in excuses so long that they believe they are right.
And if you are the one being hurt and you ask questions to clarify so you don’t make assumptions, then that is all you can do. How they choose to treat you at that point is not on your shoulders.
This is the moment we are free to make a decision about how much we have tried to gain understanding in comparison to the reception we receive. This the moment when we have done all that we can do, and expressed our heart only to be totally brushed aside… this is the moment that we can have peace about dusting off our shoes and moving on.
Why do people make excuses? Why do they take everything to a level that someone else never meant, putting words in their mouth? Let’s take time to discuss and ask things as Believers instead of jumping to conclusions that can seriously hurt others.
And let us put the pain of being hurt by those who do these things to us in a place of trusting God. Because He knows the ultimate truth.